Last October, NBC took a daring plunge into the New Age. In
addition to airing Angels II, Beyond the Light, they launched a
one-hour daytime show called The Other Side. The program is a
response to what producers perceive to be the powerful American
fascination with extraordinary events that science cannot always
explain. It explores everything from alternative medicine,
dreams, self-hypnosis, and near-death experiences to angelic
visitations and alien abductions. It's fast-paced, fascinating
and sometimes phenomenal. Invited guests, subject experts and the
studio audience participate in a lively discussion on the
featured topic, assisted by the mediation of host Dr. Will
Miller, a professed skeptic who deliberately plays the devil's
advocate, then leaves conclusions to the individual viewer.
Miller, otherwise known as Dr. Will (the character he created
for Nickelodeon's Why We Watch on Nick at Night), is what
investors are banking on. A licensed psychotherapist, ordained
minister, professional stand up comedian, and Ph.D. educator, he
is the best bet they have for making a paranormal product
palatable to the general public. The popularity of Dr. Will's
tongue-in-cheek analysis of such programs as Bewitched, The Brady
Bunch, Gilligan's Island and Lassie provides a track record that
makes the stakes less scary. As Miller puts it, Who better than a
Therapist/Minister/Comedian to host a show like this? The
therapist side of me lets them know I'd be empathetic with
people, my ministerial training and my education told them I
could handle the subject matter and the comedy background assured
them I could do the talk show part. Reticent at first ("It's
very important to me to preserve my image as a legitimate
professional), Miller is now thrilled to be using all of his
talents in one endeavor and sharing them with people all over the
country. And people all over the country are enthusiastic about
The Other Side. Ratings have been good enough to generate a loyal
following, even outside California.
Miller's easygoing manner, boyish good looks and contagious
smile appeal to a wide audience; his expressive face conveys
empathy, level-headedness and humor. He's funny, warm,
intelligent and diplomatic, and seems to sincerely respect
interpretations of faith and experiences outside Judeo-Christian
norms. He comments, As a minister, I have beliefs that science
can't explain and as a therapist, I could never demean anyone's
experience. Sometimes visibly moved, he often puts his arm around
an audience member during emotional moments, such as the time a
young black man stood in the audience with tears streaming down
his face as a medium communicated a message from his deceased
grandmother. Miller admits that the charm and relaxed manner
haven't always been so polished. As the host of a show, I've had
to learn to be more expressively tolerant. People hear what I say
and it has added value because I'm not just another guest on the
program. Sometimes people will say things that are really
intolerant and I have an inclination to want to lash back at
them; I have to find ways of confronting that won't turn off
people who may agree with them; that's been something of a
high-wire act.
Describing his personality as peppery, Miller says, I know I
come across with some warmth, but I am a New Yorker and I've been
a comedian in the clubs there, and that's a very aggressive art
form. The humor is innate; born in Brooklyn, NY, Miller was
second of seven in a family where everyone was funny except my
father. He didn't taunt siblings with his talent, though, and
doesn't use it indiscriminately today. I've been very lucky,
because I'm not one of those comedians who has to be on all the
time. I've always felt very confident that my humor doesn't put
anybody down. I use it appropriately and allow it to be
organically present, I don't force it; it comes up when it comes
up. Fortunately, it surfaces at least once during every show and,
if NBC has its way, we'll be seeing more of the comedian and less
of the therapist.
Miller's zigzag between academic and comedic paths prompted
the LA Times and People Magazine to call the show a sitcom for
The Jung and the Restless. Yet it's his ministerial calling that
Miller is most tuned in to.
A devout Christian, he attended Union Theological Seminary and
was ordained in 1989. Realizing he wanted to minister through
counseling, he obtained a master's degree in Clinical Psychology,
then worked in a mental health clinic daytimes, did comedy at
night and served his church on weekends. The mental health work
established a baseline for what he does today. I'm really
grateful I spent a few years working with people who were very
severely impaired, because I got a really close-up look at people
who were suffering; I saw the range of fantasy and distortion the
human mind can create in that context. That gave me a primer for
working with people who are healthier but who are utilizing
fantasy to help them cope.
Fantasy and myth are contexts Miller uses to interpret the
phenomena he's inundated with every weekday. I'm never really
shocked about anything in particular, but am continually reminded
of what Carl Jung said about the interior of the human mind. Here
is someone who lived in the glorious Alps in Switzerland and was
aware of the great expanse of the exterior universe, yet he said
the interior landscape of the human mind is equally rich in
expanse. People have a rich reservoir of meaning inside them.
Miller sees The Other Side as a forum in which to explore that
reservoir. Responding to less than enthusiastic reviews by
Newsweek and The Wall Street Journal (they lambasted us), he
states, They're missing the point. What we're dealing with is
cultural myth, with how people are finding meaning. We are giving
exposure to what hasn't been given much exposure and that is the
array of expression that people are finding to give meaning to
and anchor their context for human living. I think that's very
powerful, even if it comes across or is interpreted as trivial,
and even if the viewing audience doesn't understand it on a
conscious level. To be sure, the show's subject matter is often
out there (one show featured guests who claim to have had love
affairs with ghosts), yet The Other Side is probably the only
daytime talk show where no one screams, argues or bares sleazy
family skeletons, and where a thoughtful, articulate audience
asks interesting, probing questions. Miller expresses surprise at
the interest shown by professional friends and people from my
church. He figures that people feel society is deteriorating and
are scrambling for something to give them hope. They're not
finding it in traditional institutions like organized religion
and are increasingly turning to new or esoteric spiritual forms.
Of all the provocative, disturbing and awe-inspiring subjects
he has hosted, Dr. Miller cites three areas that have blown me
away. One, he says, is the power that comes when a person
combines the best traditional medicine with mobilizing the
psychological and spiritual resources that are inside them to
combat illness or people who radically vest themselves in diet,
prayer, meditation and the like while following their doctor's
recommendations. Perhaps the most dramatic example of such a
person is Dr. Paul Pearsall, whose battle with a rare form of
cancer is documented in his book, Making Miracles. Another thing
Miller finds inspiring is seeing people who have faced some
crisis or the death of a loved one, their own near-death
experience or have utilized it to completely turn their lives
around and now have the perspective of peace. I wish we could all
grab that perspective without having to go through a crisis.
That's available to you and me today, we can grab that position
now.
And he's always been knocked out by some of the really strange
stuff. Like James Van Praagh, a medium who claims to be able to
speak with the spirits of the dead and whose intermittent
appearances have become the main sizzle of the show. How he's
doing it, I don't know. He's either an extremely gifted mentalist
or...I just don't know. But what interests me is the reality or
non-reality of this. As a therapist, what I find curious is that
the people who surrender to him and just believe that they have
really had contact with someone on the other side have positive
changes that seem to hold. Miller seems to wear his therapist's
hat and ministerial robes as an invisible uniform. He links his
experience with Gestalt therapy to his musings about the medium.
The chair exercise (where you imagine whomever you have intense
feelings about sitting in the chair opposite you and then tell
them everything you feel; then move into their chair and respond
to what you've heard from yourself) is incredibly powerful. We
all know the voices of our mother and father inside of us, no
matter how disconnected we are; I wonder if that's not what James
Van Praagh is doing for people...providing a cathartic experience
with an impact similar to gestalt. So whether or not he's
actually contacting someone's deceased relative may not matter.
Other subjects have left him dubious. I've not been persuaded
by channeling or past life regression, because they don't
demonstrate well. It winds up looking silly and is demeaning to
what I know is a very profound experience. Also, the whole very
strange concept of alien abductions didn't come across well. (One
rural viewer commented that Dr. Miller and the audience on that
particular show appeared to take marked adversarial positions to
the guests describing their experiences, and that he didn't feel
the subject was adequately discussed.) Indeed, sometimes the pace
of the show precludes an in-depth discussion about very hot
topics that might be better served by a two-hour special such as
the Nielsen levitator, Ancient Prophecies. Then, too, there was
the WICCA (the organization for Witchcraft) show. That was the
worst show I ever did. The only criticism I've ever gotten was on
that show. I sort of got offended; I was not patient. The
presentation of the moral base of Wicca was not effectively
demonstrated; it came across as very odd to me; I couldn't access
it. For the most part, though, Miller is able to put his personal
beliefs aside and recognize the validity of a variety of
paranormal phenomena. Not bad for a Baptist minister who says
he's grounded in science.
Miller has, for the time being, taken off his educator's hat.
With a Ph.D. in Urban and a Master's in Special Education, he's
leaving the formal teaching to his wife, Sally, a high school
principal. Parents of two children (he got her daughter, Tamara
and son, Tommy in time for adolescent rebellion and college
tuition), they lead an active prayer life and envision the world
a better place through community development. Miller feels
passionately that the media puts too much emphasis on the one or
two heated relationships we may have and grossly underestimates
the need for extended family, neighbors and others. We're getting
sicker as a culture because we've lost community. What ails our
society is that too many people have too few relationships. I
really believe that the human being flourishes within the broad
array of many relationships. We're trying to grow healthy human
beings in very depleted soil. The other side to their vision for
a more positive world lies in family participation in the
educational process. Miller, whose own mother left housekeeping
at 45 to earn her Masters degree, believes that we have to return
to whatever it is that fosters meaning, history and memory as a
context for education. Only the family can help a child access
his or her own interior.
Miller's personal interior or Other Side experiences have been
limited to earthly inspirations from heavenly realms. I've had
profound spiritual experiences, always in the context of my
religious involvement as a Christian and a minister. The sense of
certainty I had about being called to the ministry is
inexpressible. Hosting a show such as The Other Side is perhaps
the greatest ministry Miller could provide. In a world fraught
with religious strife, he offers an example of someone with very
definite spiritual beliefs affording others the right to
experience God differently. Doing the show has deepened his
personal beliefs. Seeing people who experience their spirituality
very differently from me has still served to inspire a life of
faith. Many Bible-quoting Christians regard reincarnation,
hypnosis, astrology and mediums as pagan, blasphemous or
downright devilish, but Miller sees it differently. To me,
feeling threatened by this material is betraying a lack of faith.
God is in charge of the world, not me; my job is to live out my
life according to how He has made it clear to me. Are we heading
for the Apocalyse? Nah, I'm not worried about that, we have a lot
more stuff to do before we get into that. Miller enjoys the
support of his American Baptist congregation, and with good
reason. I'm rooted in my faith in Jesus Christ and I work hard to
embody the Good News of the Gospel. I try not to speak or
interpret the Bible, but to do my best in humility to walk the
walk of Christ, of Love, to be Jesus to others, to be open. I try
to allow God to radiate Divine Love through me. I love the prayer
of Saint Francis...( Lord, make me an instrument of Thy
Peace....'). I endeavor to embody the Holy Spirit of God and take
that wherever I walk.
Amen.